For the past couple of months, my little girl has become more challenging different. At 17 months old she throws things in frustration, slaps my hand away, and scrunches up her face among other things. It’s kind of like watching the Incredible Hulk’s transformation, except she doesn’t turn green. I’m not sure if I should stand there and watch or run away while screaming.
She has started to throw tantrums which I’m sure are mild compared to how they’ll be as she gets older. When we take something away from her like the remote, something she picked up off of the floor that we can’t identify, or a Chinese throwing star (ya know the usual) then she goes ballistic and it sounds like we’re torturing her.
When we’re at home and it happens, it pulls at my heartstrings, but I try to stand firm with her. But when it happens in public, I worry that people are thinking we are those awful parents who can’t control their child. If I have to run to the store for milk and my daughter has a meltdown, I can’t just go back home. That’s how I thought I would handle a situation like that before I had my daughter. There’s a laundry list of ways I thought I would handle things before I had a child. Since I’ve become a mom, I’ve done a 180.
It takes so much just to leave the house with her because of scheduling around nap time and meals. I can’t go to the store for something we really need only to leave before we get it just because she’s whining loudly or making a noise only dogs can hear. We get stares and people roll their eyes at us and normally that would bother me but I’m too distracted to care anymore.
Before I had my daughter I would get mildly annoyed if I was out somewhere and a child was acting up. Now I sympathize with the parents and give them the “Yep, been there, done that, so sorry” look.
*We don’t really have Chinese throwing stars lying around the house. We only keep them in the kitchen utility drawer. heh