After my husband graduated college, he was planning on getting a job using his engineering degree. When his school had a job fair, some recruiters from the Navy were there. At first the hubby and I thought “no way”.
But when the great job offers we thought he was going to get never happened and the only offers he got payed less than a job in fast food, we thought about it more seriously. It didn’t hurt that he would be getting more money.
Two of my uncles and two cousins have been in the military but, with the exception of his grandfathers, there hasn’t been anyone else from my husband’s family that has been. When he finally decided to join and go to Officer Candidate School two months later, his parents were less than thrilled.
I know my mother-in-law was furious with me and blamed me. When my hubby and I got married, I was 20, he was 21, and his mom thought we were making a huge mistake. When she married my father-in-law, she was 19 and 3 months pregnant with my husband’s older sister, so her concerns about us being too young seemed a little hypocritical.
I still think that’s why there’s so much tension between me and my mother-in-law. She thinks I stole her baby boy and threw him in the Navy even though he was the one that made the final decision.
He was away at Officer Candidate School in Florida for 3 months and it was awful to have him gone so long. Up until 4 years ago, he was deployed frequently and although I dealt with it, I never got used to him being gone all the time.
We had only been married a year when he joined the Navy so we were still in the honeymoon stage. He graduated OCS and came back home about a week before Christmas. We were going to, ahem, have a few days alone, then we were going to see his family.
He had already bought some presents and put them under our little tree. One of the presents was in a jewelry box and I got so excited. I thought maybe, just maybe, it was a diamond pendant necklace. Looking back, that’s pretty ridiculous thinking since we were young, just starting out, and so broke we couldn’t even afford a toaster.
But sure, my hubby is able to afford a diamond pendant necklace for me. Heh. It actually ended up being a U.S. Navy necklace which was sweet but in my mind, I was expecting a diamond. Then there was the card. Oy!
Since he was gone for 3 looong months, I was expecting a card that was really romantic. I took so much care in picking out his gifts and getting him a really sweet card even though I usually like funny cards.
When I was in the middle of opening the card he gave me, I was expecting it to say how much he loved and missed me. Instead, it was a total crap card. Really. It had a picture of a deer. taking. a. crap. in the woods. I admit, now it’s pretty damn funny but then, not so much.
He had been waiting for my reaction and once I had opened up the inside of the card, he was laughing. I, on the other hand, wondered if I could use the card as a murder weapon and tried to hold back tears. So much for romance.
This holiday remember, if a loved one forgets to give you a card or it isn’t what you expect, know that it could be much worse. You could be given a card with a deer taking a crap in the woods.
**Update. My hubby finally redeemed himself, 10 years later, when he was the card for our 11th anniversary.