Tyler Clementi

I had planned on making this an actual article but decided to do a post instead and just say what I feel about this instead of using all of these facts I have printed out beside me.

If you don’t know Tyler Clementi, please click here and then come back. Don’t worry, we’ll wait for you. *enter Jeopardy theme music*

Okay, these are only my views and blah, blah.

Now that we have that out of the way, the death of this beautiful, 18 year-old person has been haunting me since I first heard about it in September 2010. He was a college student at Rutgers University in New Jersey.

Tyler Clementi’s roommate caught him on video kissing another man in his dorm room on September 19th. Then this roommate was trying to set up a second viewing of Tyler with a man. That viewing never happened. Mr. Clementi reported this to the college and complained about his roommate. He requested a room change and punishment for his roommate.

On September 22nd, he jumped off the George Washington Bridge and his last words on Facebook were…

“Jumping off the gw bridge sorry”.

I don’t know much about his roommate and a female involved and never followed their cases because I don’t give a shit about them.

This hate with the LGBT community has me so fed up. Nobody is asking you to live that kind of lifestyle so why in the world are people preventing things like gay marriage? It’s nobody’s business what goes on in somebody’s love life.

If you scroll all the way down the page, you’ll see that I have a “Gay Is Okay” button. I have it there because it is okay. It’s better than okay.  Okay? hehe

I just hope you remember Tyler Clementi. He had so much to give and it was taken away at such a young age.

I saw this on Pinterest and thought it was right on….


I used to be terrified of rocking the boat on my blog and have remained as neutral as I can be on the subject of politics and so forth. Then I thought “This is my blog, why the fuck am I worried about what I say”.

Well, I still don’t want to rock the boat but what the hell. Here it goes.

I’m pro-choice.

I’m not religious.

I’m liberal.

Politics piss me off.

I just want people to be able to live their lives the way they want and be happy.

I think the fact that gay marriage isn’t legal everywhere is disgusting.

I want my daughter to grow up to be a great person, whatever her views may be.

I still love you even if we don’t agree with these views.


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19 Responses to Tyler Clementi

  1. Jayne August 20, 2012 at 01:04 #

    I couldn’t agree more. Oh, and I WOULD call myself a liberal, and proud to be one, if that’s what you call it when you just want everyone to be happy and able to commit themselves to whomever they choose. Great post, I wasn’t aware if Tyler until I read this, what a sad and tragic waste of a good person. RIP Tyler xxx
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  2. QuartCourt August 20, 2012 at 02:31 #

    I swear to god we are the same freaking person. Seriously. Excellent post. This story has also haunted me from day one. It was just all so senseless.

  3. LeeAnne Curtis August 20, 2012 at 05:26 #

    Elle – I couldn’t agree more, but you said it so much better than I ever could. I did keep up with the story and was happy our Justice System “worked” for once, but it sure did’t bring Tyler back, so there are now family and friends on both sides that were affected by this act. I believe in Live and Let Live.
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  4. Angie August 20, 2012 at 07:18 #

    I agree! Love is love to me regardless of who the other person is. I know some people claim the bible states marriage is between a man and a woman, but I thought we were supposed to have separation of church and state. It is not like straight people are making marriage look good right now. Anyway, yes I agree with everything you said!
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  5. Tara August 20, 2012 at 07:24 #

    Amen. (And I’m not religious either 🙂 )
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  6. Ross August 20, 2012 at 09:56 #

    This is the kind of thinking every child deserves from their parent!

  7. Jen @ Bible Belt to Boulder August 20, 2012 at 10:15 #

    I couldn’t possibly agree more! Though, I’ve written before about how even being a member of the gay community, I get nervous about rocking the boat. However, history teaches us that people voicing support is the only way there will ever be change, along with people paying attention to stories like Tyler’s.
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  8. Jennifer C. August 20, 2012 at 10:49 #

    One thing I’ve dealt with lately is family members that joined the Pro-Chick-Fil-A crusade. I could give two shits about the Chick-Fil-A debate. I do however support gay marriage. I have 2 gay cousins and want them to have all of the ups, downs, love, and compassion that my marriage has. So it hurts me when my own family members can get on Facebook and talk about how they are persecuted for living a conservative Christian lifestyle and how the Bible defines what is right and wrong. Don’t they know they are hurting their own family? Shame on them for bullying the people they grew up with, the people that share their blood line, the people that were at their weddings. Bullying and discrimination are NEVER ok, especially within your own flesh and blood.

    • Sarah August 20, 2012 at 19:29 #

      Thank you!

  9. Lisa August 20, 2012 at 11:33 #

    I love your blog! Me? I am:

    Pro Life
    I’m religious
    I’m semi-liberal
    I also believe that two human beings of age have the right to live how they choose. For the life of me, I can’t even fathom why it’s an issue.

    • Elle August 21, 2012 at 09:45 #

      I love ya, girl! And thank you. xx

  10. Elizabeth Kane August 20, 2012 at 14:44 #

    I agree. It’s hard to risk rocking the boat sometimes. Creating the world we want to live in is much harder than it sounds. But that uneasiness is worth it once we feel strong enough to speak – especially if it means preventing tragedies like this one.

    Great picture you posted from Pinterest too. Maybe if more people thought about how their words could be interpreted 40 years from now, they’d be more selective about what they say. I want to be on the right side of history.

  11. Alyssa August 20, 2012 at 16:08 #

    The louder the bigots holler, the quicker their fall. Or, at least that’s my hope >.< , I've posted a couple of blogs about this sort of topic myself. It saddens me greatly when people are harassed to the point of wanting do die.

  12. Sarah August 20, 2012 at 19:27 #


  13. MOMMA TOAST August 22, 2012 at 08:21 #

    IF I ever get my blog up and running, I would post my thoughts and my thoughts would mirror yours.
    It is myunderstanding that all religion is loosely based on the “golden rule,” i.e. “Do onto others as you would have them do onto you.”
    But so many groups of people think their religion/way is the best way and can be the ONLY way. So sad. So wrong.
    Many years ago when our children were small, my husband told me that if any of his children were gay, he would disown them! Who was this man I had married?
    Over the years he’s become more “accepting” of gays. But he still spouts that MARRIAGE should ONLY be between one man and one woman because that’s what the bible says. Huh? From a man who hasn’t been to church since the day we were married?.
    I feel so badly for Tyler’s family and for all other people who are discriminated against…for whatever reason.
    Live and Let LIve.

  14. Emily Fowler August 22, 2012 at 16:01 #

    My then 10-year-old was bullied in school last year, with part of the bullying being name calling- “You’re gay!” My son’s response (one of my proudest Mama moments) was “What’s wrong with being gay?” (Most of the kids were quieted by that…sadly, one boy said “My Dad thinks lots of things are wrong with it.” Sigh.)

    It breaks my heart that people can be so cruel to other people just based on who they love. I don’t know about you, but I didn’t “choose” to be straight and fall in love with my husband- I just did. I have always figured that’s how everyone falls in love. I have also never had my marriage affected by anyone else’s marriage, so I’m not sure why anyone cares so dang much about who other people are marrying.

    Thanks for the blog. 🙂

  15. weezafish August 23, 2012 at 01:11 #

    Elle, this is one of my favourite posts of yours because you’re right, why the fuck should you be afraid of just being you on your own blog. And I totally, 100% agree with you on everything. Love the Pinterest image too, so true. People should open their minds and their hearts a bit more and think on. Tragic that in this age, a young man would take his life in that way and over something so avoidable and totally unecessary. Well said Lady! I’m applauding you (clap clap)
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  16. Gina August 23, 2012 at 19:44 #

    Thank you for sharing! I couldn’t agree more.

  17. psychofab September 10, 2012 at 06:34 #

    Thank you. I am basically a closetted bisexual in my family. Due to my falling in love and marrying a man, it’s a subject that’s never really come up. With the issues surrounding chik-fil-a and this case, it has become increasingly obvious that who I am, as an individual and human being, is dangerously at odds with the beliefs many of the people I love, and consider family. Sometimes, when they are discussing these beliefs, using hate filled language and unsupported fears to make their point, I wonder what would happen if they found out. Would they hate me? Would they pretend to think differently but still really consider me sinful? Someday I hope this won’t be an issue. Sometimes I feel certian I’ll be old and gone before that happens. People hold on so tightly to their hate.

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