This happened a few years ago when my husband and I went to see his family and drove several hours to see mine. Surprisingly, it wasn’t a total nightmare with my hubby’s family…okay it was but going to see my family was worse.
The rest of my family was fine but it was my sister that seemed to have it out for me as soon as we walked into her house. We don’t have the best relationship anymore after there were hateful words that flew around years before and we aren’t close either. I love her to death but we clash all the time.
The whole stay was very tense, so much so that the hubby even picked up on it which he never does.
He would wonder aloud what’s with her attitude and also asked my mom if something was wrong with her because she’s acting so cold.
When the hummingbird had a nap in my nephew’s room, I went in to change her diaper after she woke up. Since I didn’t want to lay her on the floor
because I’m old, I layed the hummingbird at the end of my nephew’s bed and put a diaper changing pad underneath her.
I might have fucked up but I honestly didn’t think it was a big deal and before I even did it, I wondered if I would be okay if my sister did the same thing to one of her kids at my house. I wouldn’t have a problem with it.
It’s not like I layed the hummingbird’s bare butt on my nephew’s pillow. It was just at the bottom of his bed.
Anyway, my sister came in and lost her shit when she saw that I was doing this. She was going on saying how little I think of her and that I’ve been treating her and her kids like crap since we got there.
There were more words exchanged and I pretty much had it the second day we were there.
The little hummingbird HATES the sound of a vacuum cleaner, like me, and at the time she was only about 19 months old. Anyway, after we had Thanksgiving dinner, my sister’s husband got out the vacuum cleaner so I asked the hubs if he wants to take the hummingbird out of the room for a bit or I could because she would cry and shake if she heard one.
My sister over heard this and told me “you’ve got to be kidding me. That’s so stupid. Let her sit there and cry.”
I told her it wasn’t a big deal and we’d just take her out of the room but of course she made it into an even bigger deal.
She told me how we baby the hummingbird way too much and how we’ve been treating her like we’re better than her ever since she arrived.
She lives in a very small town in the south but it seems like she’s more insecure about what others think of her when it comes to her life and family when in reality, I don’t think much of it.
I walked out of the room to hunt down my husband and told him we should really leave soon and go back to the hotel because my sister seemed like she wanted to start shit.
My mom was also there and didn’t have any idea that this was going on and that my sister and I were really at odds by that point. I’m leaving out a lot because I really don’t feel like rehashing most of it but I know how my sister is. She LOVES to push my buttons. Actually, she loves to push everybody’s.
I was trying so hard to behave myself so I wasn’t paying much attention to my sister this visit because ever time we talked, it looked like she was going for another fight.
Meanwhile, my niece had a cold and when my hubby brought our iPad over, the kids loved it. The only problem was that she would cough and sneeze onto the iPad and I didn’t feel like it was my place to tell her to cover her mouth but my sister would just sit there, saying nothing.
That made me worry because I didn’t want us to get sick and have to fly half way across the country with colds and a sick toddler (we ended up getting so sick). I think my husband said something at one point about having her cover her mouth which isn’t like him but my niece and nephew were fighting over the iPad and grabbing it back and forth and he had to tell them to stop doing that too.
Again, my sister just sat there and watched. I kept my mouth shut because I knew if I was the one to say “hey kids, let’s be gentle with the computer” my sister would have jumped down my throat.
Fast forward….my husband and I planned to leave earlier than we were going to because I could just feel a storm coming on with my sister.
We were getting everything together to go and I was trying to find my mom to tell her goodbye. That’s when someone mentioned a quick photo and I was standing while holding the hummingbird.
My sniffling, sneezing, and coughing niece asked if she could hold the hummingbird and I told her I better hold her for know.
1. My niece had tried to hold her before but she just couldn’t physically hold her without toppling over so I thought that would be a really sucky idea.
2. My niece was sick and the hummingbird was clinging to me. I think she probably felf the fucked up energy in the air.
All of a sudden, my sister starts yelling at me. “Why can’t (niece) hold her? Is she not good enough for you!” “You treat my kids like they have AIDS.”
On and on and on she went. I stood there stunned. It just sounded like everything she was saying that I was supposedly thinking was actually her insecurities about her life because while I wouldn’t want to be living where she does, I really don’t care at this point. She’s the one who chose her life, not me.
So, everyone stood there silent while my sister yelled at me about all kinds of things and as usual, I felt like my parents were sticking up for her. I was expecting one of them to tell her she was out of line. Something…anything….nothing was said.
I was so fucking done with her and her shit so that’s when I said we were leaving. I just wish we left earlier when I told my husband we should because then this might not have happened.
To be fair, I have no idea what goes on in my sister’s head…obviously….and maybe she was going through a rough time.
But she doesn’t have to always take this shit out on me.
Since then, we haven’t said a word to each other. I know she’s my sister but this has been going on for years and I’m just done. The two of us are just way too different to see eye to eye.
I used to be sad about it but now, to be honest, I’m much happier knowing that my sister isn’t going to say something to knock me down.
Another issue we’ve had for years is I really suck at calling people back and even though my sister knows this, once I would finally call her, she would spend most of the conversation bitching me out about why it took so long to call her back. That would really make me want to call her more often. Ha!
So, anyway, that was one of my worst holidays. The other worst ones were when my mother’s in-laws would treat her so awful and end up making her cry.
Ugh, tis the season to be jolly by drinking more, right?
What disaster holiday happenings have you had?