My daughter is rocking what I’ve dubbed the “fuck you” 4’s.
When the hummingbird turned 4, I wasn’t expecting her to be 4 going on 14.
Damn, it’s like I’m getting a preview of her teen years.
I think this age is bittersweet. While the upside is she understands more and can communicate her feelings better, the downside is that she understands more, knows how to manipulate, and can communicate her feelings better.
When she gets into one of her moody moods, she usually responds with HMPH!! to everything I tell her to do. Her HMPH basically equals a big “fuck you, mom”.
That’s how I translate it anyway.
She has an opposing opinion about every single thing (thanks to my genes) we tell her to do and has become so hard-headed. Yes, it’s made me more mental than normal.
She’s like a mini-teenager including slamming of doors when she’s annoyed, followed by yelling… You’re Not My Friend ANYMORE!!
I find her being 4 harder than when she was 3 or even 2. It’s especially frustrating because I know this A-T-T-I-T-U-D-E she’s been having lately isn’t really her true personality. She’s just doing what kids do best. Testing the limits and pushing buttons to see just how much she can get away with. Finding the boundaries.
I’m still more of a disciplinarian than my husband so I get to be the bad guy. Boooo!
The hummingbird will go from a sweet, well-behaved little girl to a 4 year-old teenager in a matter of 1.2 seconds and I’m left thinking what the fuck just happened?
It’s like my girl is getting notes from possessed Linda Blair on how to behave.
There is an upside though. Now that she’s getting older, I feel closer to her than ever before, even when I consider sending her to live with a pack of wolves.
I love having actual conversations with her, something that I’ve been looking forward to for years. I’m seeing her interest in music develop, among other things… boys included… oh shit, I’m screwed there.
So, the 4’s will no doubt keep you on your toes and at times, may make you want to pull your hair out.
Expect to add to your liquor cabinet because you’ll need it.
Does your young child act like a teen already? Have you sent them away to live with a pack of wolves yet?