Marriage Is Exhausting

Back in October, my mom came for a visit after six years of us not seeing each other. It was so amazing having her here and the only time I feel like my true self is when I’m around my mom, sister, and writing, so it was an exciting visit for me.

We talk about everything and nothing is really off limits. Months before my mom came to visit, I had been feeling off about my marriage. We’re not talking splitsville but my husband was just annoying the shit out of me. The biggest issue is that he is so overconsumed by our daughter and at times, overbearing… just like his parents are. I end up feeling like the third wheel. Obviously kids are the main issue but I firmly believe that the relationship should come first.

It gives your children a foundation to what a healthy relationship is and they learn the world doesn’t revolve around them all of the time.

After some talks with my mom, I could no longer ignore the disconnect I felt in my marriage. After the hummingbird goes to bed, the hubby and I go off and do our own things. While we’re in the same house, we’ve been slowly losing the closeness we once had.

My mom was the mirror I needed to see that I had to make a change and put my marriage on high priority. But, I had gotten to a point where I was stuck in a rut and exhausted by my marriage. It can be a lot of work. I had unintentionally left it on the wayside.

So, after my mom left, I immediately dove in and made the effort to be more one on one with him. Obviously, it can be hard when you have a 7 year-old that interrupts by saying “mom! mom? mom? MOOOM?!” over and over again while talking to your significant other and you have to say JUST A MINUTE! through gritted teeth.

Slowly, we’ve been working on connecting with each other more. We still on occasion get stuck in our old habits but I found out something and I don’t know why I hadn’t known this about my husband all this time.

I’ve heard the saying that they way to a man’s heart is through his stomach and while I believe that’s true, I found a quicker response is by letting my hands do the work. And by that I mean, touching his dick. How did I not know this all there years?!

He’s always been more affectionate and I’ve been the type that wants my space so he’s probably been deprived. So, I just touch it.

Want those shelves he’s been promising to make for the past two years?

Touch his dick.

Need to get something painted?

Touch it!

Have to get something fixed?

Touch it!

I was excited to tell my therapist about this discovery. After bitching to her for months about how I feel my marriage is getting off track, I went to a recent session and said I can’t believe all I have to do to get my husband to respond more to me in all ways is by nuzzling up to him and touching his dick!

After 21 years of marriage, it’s nice to feel like we’re getting back on track with our relationship.

And, it’s all thanks to dick.

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4 Responses to Marriage Is Exhausting

  1. Notmyyearoff January 5, 2017 at 09:12 #

    The last bit made me chuckle. It’s sooo so easy to become disconnected though isn’t it? It quickly becomes a habit and you don’t even realise at first. Or at least, I didn’t! We’ve been trying to make more time for ourselves recently. We’re so rubbish at it but at least it’s a start I guess. happy new year to you all lovely lady x
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  2. Shary January 21, 2017 at 21:06 #

    This is so true! I love my husband more when he does things for me, and he does things for me when I love him more (with dick touching). It’s a great cycle to get stuck in, and we’re happier for it!
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  3. KatM February 13, 2017 at 14:30 #

    Do you watch Supernatural? There is an episode where Cas has to tell Bobby that he has to touch it (he means his soul). It is hilarious and the gag reel is even more hilarious because he says touch it over and over and over :).

  4. kat March 25, 2017 at 00:41 #

    Fucking hilarious. I so relate. So does my husband. We both laughed. And then he went back out into the garden, head low, effervescing sadness, because I don’t want to touch his dick.

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